Can stay-at-home Dads be “real men”?

I guess I came in late for this controversy: from 2008 there’s a YouTube clip of a famous preacher and his wife, responding to the question: “What are your thoughts on stay at home dads if the woman really wants to work?”[1]

“Too many guys take too little responsibility” was part of the answer, one with which I fully resonate. We have a culture where men play at being boys well into their adult years. At a time when their fathers and grandfathers had buckled down to marriage and a job or were off fighting Nazis, some guys focus on playing the field or playing paintball until they’re, well, practically my age. The women are complaining and they oughta be. These guys need to hear a Word about their behavior.

But let’s put them to one side, since the gist of their response was something else: If men are not the primary bread-winners in the family, they are not doing “what the Word says.” Parenting must be done principally by the mother, not just “anyone,” not even the father. The idea of a father staying at home to focus on raising children is a perverted idea, taken from our modern culture, not the Bible. These men are “conformed to this world.” Such behavior would even by “a case for church discipline.”

Okay, let’s see “what the Word says.” (more…)

Preach about hell…but think it through first!

By Gary Shogren, Seminario ESEPA, San José, Costa Rica

I have no sympathy with those who eliminate the hard teachings of the Bible. A Christian has made a prior commitment to follow Jesus and to speak and act as Jesus would.

I have little sympathy with those who affirm right and left that they stand true to the hard teachings of the Bible, but who seldom touch on them…or who apologize profusely for bringing them up…or who when they speak on them, shout the truth as if to pump themselves up with confidence (I think of them as the “grenade tossers”).

I have plenty of sympathy with those who want to express the biblical truths in a clear, confident and understandable way but who struggle to do so. Struggle is a sign of vitality; living things struggle, complacent things lie still.

Hell is surely one of those hard teachings. I have no special insight on how to communicate it, but I’ve spent a lot of time recently on 2 Thess 1:5-10 and other passages and thought through what needs to be said, and how. (more…)

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